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Marriage Essay for Students and Children

500+ words essay on marriage.

In general, marriage can be described as a bond/commitment between a man and a woman. Also, this bond is strongly connected with love, tolerance, support, and harmony. Also, creating a family means to enter a new stage of social advancement. Marriages help in founding the new relationship between females and males. Also, this is thought to be the highest as well as the most important Institution in our society. The marriage essay is a guide to what constitutes a marriage in India. 

Whenever we think about marriage, the first thing that comes to our mind is the long-lasting relationship. Also, for everyone, marriage is one of the most important decisions in their life. Because you are choosing to live your whole life with that 1 person. Thus, when people decide to get married, they think of having a lovely family, dedicating their life together, and raising their children together. The circle of humankind is like that only. 

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As it is seen with other experiences as well, the experience of marriage can be successful or unsuccessful. If truth to be held, there is no secret to a successful marriage. It is all about finding the person and enjoying all the differences and imperfections, thereby making your life smooth. So, a good marriage is something that is supposed to be created by two loving people. Thus, it does not happen from time to time. Researchers believe that married people are less depressed and more happy as compared to unmarried people. 

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Concepts of Marriage

There is no theoretical concept of marriage. Because for everyone these concepts will keep on changing. But there are some basic concepts which are common in every marriage. These concepts are children, communication , problem-solving , and influences. Here, children may be the most considerable issue. Because many think that having a child is a stressful thing. While others do not believe it. But one thing is sure that having children will change the couple’s life. Now there is someone else besides them whose responsibilities and duties are to be done by the parents. 

Another concept in marriage is problem-solving where it is important to realize that you can live on your own every day. Thus, it is important to find solutions to some misunderstandings together. This is one of the essential parts of a marriage. Communication also plays a huge role in marriage. Thus, the couple should act friends, in fact, be,t friends. There should be no secret between the couple and no one should hide anything. So, both persons should do what they feel comfortable. It is not necessary to think that marriage is difficult and thus it makes you feel busy and unhappy all the time. 

Marriage is like a huge painting where you brush your movements and create your own love story. 

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Memoir coach and author Marion Roach

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How to Write About Marriage? Learn How to Write the Personal Essay

I TEACH ONLINE MEMOIR CLASSES and work as a memoir coach and memoir editor, and in those roles I get a lot of requests for teaching how to write the personal essay. The essay is my favorite medium and most of the essays I have written and published take on simple, domestic issues stemming from marriage and family. The key to writing from home is to stay small. You are most likely to succeed in delivering a feeling to the reader if you attempt to do so without telling us what that feeling is. Navigating this space of showing, not telling, is critical to the success of a good, domestic essay.

What do I mean by that? Just this: Let the reader do some of the work. Let them do the math. Let them read it and gather together the details without you having to say something like: Hey, look at how someone loves me . Just show us. How? Here’s an example.

Read this essay and leave in the comments what you notice about what does and does not get said, and what you feel at the end.

I HAVE THREE FREEZERS. There, I admit it. I do. A born and raised New Yorker, maybe I have nothing more or less than a shtetl mentality, some genetic holdover from a time when there was never plenty. But probably not, since the closest I’ve come to Anatevka was fourth row center seats for “Fiddler on the Roof” when I was twelve.

And so it remains one of the greater mysteries of my marriage – to my husband, that is – that I buy chickens and freeze them, make stock and freeze it, make pesto and freeze it, and that every once in a while in the blur that I am as I whirl between the three freezers, I put something into one of them that, well, simply doesn’t belong.

It’s good he doesn’t take it personally, though that is probably because I have assured him that this started long before our marriage, and that I once located a sumptuous pair of alligator loafers in the fridge after thinking for months that I had lost them. They were in a brown paper bag, exactly the size of a pizza slice, so it seems obvious to me what my mind did when I got home from the shoe repair. Into the fridge, I thought, and that, as they say, was that. So glad was I when I found them that there were no recriminations. Plus, at the time I lived alone, so I had no one with whom the share the joy of finding them. Cold, though they were, I merely slipped them on and instantly regained my sense of balance.

These days, I have an audience, as well as several mouths to feed. Along with providing food for the adults in my home, I also cook for our dog. He has allergies. Seven years we’ve been at it. The cost of this is 14 sweet potatoes and 14 chicken thighs each week, and so an enormous canvas bag of sweet potatoes sits on top of the chest freezer in the garage (did I forget to mention that of the three freezers, one is the chest variety?) It’s the kind of bag that ship riggers use. Strong handled and sturdy, we need it for when the price is low – a recent 99 cents/pound, for instance – and we buy in bulk. It’s hard to lose.

Or so you might think.

Saturday was a cooking day for me, and so I am writing in real time here, reporting from the front. The last of the parsnips, all of the frozen vegetable scrapings, cilantro stems and other tidbits from the freezer went into the cauldron-sized stock pot. Back and forth from the freezers I went, finding tempting stashes of things to add.

“Oh look,” I said to the dog, “Chives!” The dog gave me the look he always gives me. It’s lovely to be adored no matter what you do.

My chives are now up in my kitchen garden, so clearly the frozen ones had to go into the soup. And in they went. And more things came to mind, and apparently I was wearing one of my many pair of glasses and carrying a mug of tea while I triangulated my way between my freezers. And then the washing machine sang its little song it sings when the load is done and the triangulation became a parallelogram and I added an upstairs trip.

The soup was creating that kind of happy haze it does when the aroma has taken over the house, and everything seemed right with the world. Out to the freezer I went again when I noticed the mega bag of potatoes was gone. Missing. Thinking it might help if I could see better, I patted myself down for my eyeglasses. Gone too. And what about that tea? Wasn’t I drinking something just moments ago?

Opening the stand freezer I was delighted to find the full bag of potatoes quietly cooling inside. Not that alarming, really. Many remarkable things have been unearthed there, including a portable phone and a book. It happens. And being a good wife, I called to my husband.

“Look, honey!” He came in from the kitchen, and that look on his face was the dividend check, the little extra I get from years of investing in this life.

The glasses? They were in the laundry hamper. Obviously. But it was my husband who found the tea mug, hours later, in that grand sweep I now realize he quietly does every day and last thing on most nights, simply putting everything back in its place so we can get on with our lives.

Tips for How to Write The Personal Essay:

Most of my essays come from domestic moments. Before I set out to write from my idea of home, I read extensively. Specifically, when learning how to write about marriage, domesticity or cooking, I can credit the great Laurie Colwin, Russell Baker and Nora Ephron for some great provocation. I read and I learned how to write the personal essay.

Have you seen my list of books to read to write memoir ? Have a look.

Want more? Join me in an upcoming online memoir class where tips like these are plentiful.

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Betsy Marro says

April 20, 2015 at 2:27 pm

Marion – I laughed out loud as I read this. In our house, we take turns finding what the other has lost as we wander through our home and our lives. I still recall the day that my cell phone rang just as I pulled into work. It was my love, speaking in that confused, amazed, indignant, frustrated tone that signals the loss of something crucial. In this case it was his glasses, his last pair. He couldn’t drive without them. He was late for work. He could no longer think clearly about where to look. “Would you like me to come home?” I asked. “Would you?” he said. And twenty minutes later there we were, retracing his steps. “Did you check the laundry closet?” I asked. “I wouldn’t have put them there!” he said. Which of course spoke volumes. I went in, opened the washing machine and there they were at the bottom of the drum, the lenses staring up at me. I didn’t crow or chortle or get too mad. By then I’d learned what we both know all too well, that it is only a matter of time before I’ve lost my keys, again, in my purse.

marion says

April 21, 2015 at 6:22 pm

Oh, that’s lovely, Betsy. Thank you for being in the club, and willingly admitting to it. Please come back soon for more. I sometimes forget what rich fodder is there is marriage. The everyday is the best place to go for material, isn’t it?

diane Cameron says

April 20, 2015 at 5:53 pm

Now I was waiting to hear that at least one of those freezers had a stock of Creme de la Mer–just in case, or your favorite red lipstick–also just in case. That I would understand, or for storing cashmere crew necks, which I understand store best in freezing cold storage. Chickens? Chives? Lordy–the things I learn about you.

Not even a small freezer bag of lipsticks?

April 21, 2015 at 6:21 pm

Small bag. The good stuff. The stuff I did not buy at the drugstore. How did you know?

Julia Pomeroy says

April 21, 2015 at 10:56 am

So funny, Marion, and so true. I love your home, your husband, your dog. Thank you for inviting me in.

April 21, 2015 at 6:20 pm

Thank you, Julia. I am delighted by the affection and friendship.

Jan Hogle says

April 21, 2015 at 12:16 pm

Damn… I’ve lost my expensive prescription glasses with the detachable sunglasses. Can you help me find them??

Great post!

April 21, 2015 at 6:19 pm

Found ’em. In the freezer.

Robin Botie says

April 21, 2015 at 6:11 pm

Oh THAT’s what husbands are for. Been so many years I forgot how great they can be around the house. I’ve been losing things left and right all this time. Cheers!

Ha ha ha. Yes, they can be great around the house. Thanks for coming by for a laugh.

Melinda says

April 22, 2015 at 11:11 am

I have a clear childhood memory of my mother standing in front of the freezer, dumbstruck, as she pulled out her purse. When I laughed she said, “I’m not worried about the purse. Now I just need to find the damn ice cream.”

Now that I am of that certain age, I completely understand.

April 22, 2015 at 12:18 pm

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Laughing so damn hard right now. What a kind gift this is you offer. Thank you. And what a fabulous thing for you to write about. Go on.

Sherrey Meyer says

April 25, 2015 at 2:34 pm

Marion, I’m guessing you can hear my laughing all the way from Portland, OR to the east coast! Such a funny story you’ve shared, and one which many of us can relate to in one way or another. I don’t have a chest freezer, and I only have one freezer other than the one with the fridge. But I do manage to lose things in that tall freezer residing in a garage that is really my husband’s workshop and not a garage at all. I’m wondering now if that’s where he’s lost all those books of blank checks he was looking for and perhaps it’s where I might find the springtime blouse I can’t find now that it’s spring. I’ll go look!

Kathleen Pooler says

May 6, 2015 at 10:52 am

Oh my gosh, Marion, you had me laughing out loud as I recalled my own stories of “losing “my eyeglasses which were sitting on my head or finding the box of Triscuits in the refrigerator and wondering who could have possibly done that?? I’m so happy I’m not alone in this. Thank you for sharing!

Amanda says

April 5, 2020 at 9:57 am

The cilantro stem, the dividend check (just beautiful – a ROI), something about the sturdy bag reminded me of my grandmother’s cool damp cellar. I had to read the essay twice to know why the last sentence struck me – the grand sweep, but it was your words “that I now realize” he does…I do the grand sweep of our night stands every morning. It is part of my morning rhythm after he leaves for work. And moreso, I pick up clues – an empty ice cream bowl tells me he stayed up later than me and will have a story to tell about an episode or a news piece, business cards tell me he’s mowing today, the gold PO Box key – he’ll be calling for it any minute. As I do the sweep each morning, I think of him and wonder if he knows how it happens. I suppose I’m waiting for that ROI!

Julia Grant says

April 5, 2020 at 10:14 am

It is lovely how you provided a portrait of a loving marriage through your articulation of your meanderings in the kitchen, the items you lose, and those that are found by your husband. Thank you for the lesson!

Wendy Komancheck says

April 5, 2020 at 1:46 pm

Hiya Marion: I’m glad I’m not the only one leaving things in odd places. Your husband should start a support group for men whose wives are forgetful! :) It’s the artist/creative inside us! My older son also has had to suffer with my absent-mindedness–but he thinks I lost my mind. I always reply, “I wasn’t always like this. It wasn’t until I had kids.) Said in jest, of course.:) Thank you for sharing!

Colleen Golafshan says

April 9, 2020 at 1:57 am

Oh, I relate to misplacing items – sometimes not finding them for years. This morning I happily found, from a pile I’d pulled out behind my desk, a hard copy of your recommended memoir books, which I wanted as I research my first memoir essay (after working on book-length projects). It’s about my years as a homeschooling stay-at-home mum, my failings and asking forgiveness of my two beautiful children, now rewarded with their amazing love in hard times.

Here’s what I heard in your essay: You’re a born and raised New Yorker, genetically but distantly Jewish. You love to keep food frozen and at the ready in your three freezers, which include a chest freezer on which you keep a canvas bag of sweet potatoes for the dog.

On Saturday, while whirling around creating a cauldron-sized soup–with parsnips, vegetable scraps, cilantro stems, chives and other tidbits–and carrying a mug of tea, you had to attend to your clothes washing.

Once the soup was on, creating a happy haze of aroma through the house, you noticed the sweet potatoes were missing, as well as the glasses you’d been wearing and your tea. You found the sweet potatoes in a standing freezer. Showing this to your husband, he rewarded you with a look, a paycheck for all the years you’ve invested in his life. The glasses turned up in the laundry hamper but your tea mug wasn’t found for hours, and then by your husband.

What you did not say in the essay: Apart from your preamble about the art of memoir which should show rather than say, Hey Look at how someone loves me, you don’t actually say your husband loves you or that you love him and the home you’ve created. But these facts well up through the peace you describe at home, despite the chaos sometimes caused by misplacing items. There you have an audience of an adoring dog and a husband who not only shares your joy of finding things in unusual places but who balances your tendency to leave such things out of place with his quiet nightly routine.

When you lived alone, it took longer to regain your sense of balance after misplacing your loafers than these days when your husband quietly ‘sweeps’ through the house at night to find misplaced items.

How I feel after this review is grateful for the peace you feel and share when New York is in chaos with so many affected by coronavirus. However, this was not a clear feeling on my first read.

As an Australian, I often feel at a loss to fully translate others’ communicated lifestyles into exactly what is meant, as I did when I first read this essay. Using maps and looking up word definitions helps (eg. shtelt). For example, I love listening to your inspiring podcasts, yet I often feel I lose a lot of rich context, especially when interviewed authors are from your area and you have shared history, far from my western Sydney townhouse. I’ve not been to New York, though I’ve stayed with friends and family living in Minnesota and California. These days I travel in books and online as I learn to live with low-grade lymphoma that limits even local travel.

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IELTS Writing Task 2 – People Should Be Encouraged To Get Married Before They Are 30

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In this IELTS Writing Task 2 Agree/Disagree essay, we will support the notion that “People Should Be Encouraged to Get Married Before They Are 30.” We will look into the complexities of marriage, exploring multifaceted perspectives, real-world examples, and the change in people’s lives by marrying before 30.

IELTS Writing Task 2 requires test-takers to compose a coherent essay in response to a given prompt. In Agree-Disagree essays, candidates express their stance on a statement and support it with relevant arguments. Graded on a scale of 1 to 9, achieving a Band 7, 8, or 9 indicates varying levels of proficiency.

Structural Breakdown

Type: Agree/Disagree Essay

Here are some tips to master IELTS Writing Task 2 – Agree/Disagree Essay .

Band 7 Sample Answer

Marriage before the age of 30 is often advocated as advantageous for both the individual and society. It is often argued that early marriage gives stability, promotes family values, and contributes to social cohesion. While there may be merits to this perspective, it oversimplifies the complex nature of human relationships.

Advocates posit that early marriage enhances stability by providing a solid foundation for which individuals to build their lives. Financial security, emotional support, and shared responsibilities are believed to be more easily achieved when couples marry at a younger age. From a societal standpoint, stable families are seen as fundamental building blocks, contributing to the overall well-being of the community.

However, such a stance neglects the fact that personal and professional development often continues well into one’s thirties. Encouraging marriage before this critical period might inadvertently impede individual growth, limiting career opportunities and personal achievements. Additionally, rushed unions may lead to higher divorce rates, which can have detrimental effects on both individuals and society.

In conclusion, while early marriage may offer certain benefits, it is crucial to consider the potential drawbacks, such as limiting personal development. Striking a balance between individual aspirations and societal expectations is essential for a more nuanced and informed perspective.

Meaning: Publicly support or recommend a particular cause or policy. Example: The environmentalists advocated for stricter regulations to protect endangered species.

• Oversimplifies:

Meaning: To simplify to the extent that a distorted or misleading view is presented. Example: The article oversimplifies the economic challenges, ignoring crucial factors influencing the market.

Meaning: The action or fact of forming a united whole. Example: The strong sense of cohesion within the team contributed to their success.

• Fundamental:

Meaning: Forming a necessary base or core; of central importance. Example: Education is fundamental to personal and societal development.

• Well-being:

Meaning: The state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy. Example: Regular exercise is essential for maintaining overall well-being.

Meaning: Delay or obstruct the progress of something. Example: The construction work was impeded by heavy rainfall.

• Detrimental:

Meaning: Tending to cause harm or damage. Example: Lack of exercise can be detrimental to one’s physical health.

Meaning: Characterized by subtle shades of meaning or expression. Example: The author’s nuanced writing style allows readers to explore complex themes.

• Aspirations:

Meaning: Strong desires or ambitions, typically to achieve something high or great. Example: Her career aspirations include becoming a leader in the tech industry.

Meaning: Having or showing knowledge of a particular subject or situation. Example: Make an informed decision by researching all available options.

Band 8 Sample Answer

The proposition that individuals ought to marry before the age of 30 for the betterment of both personal and societal interests is a contentious one. Advocates contend that early marriage is a linchpin for societal stability, asserting that it fortifies the fabric of communities. However, a comprehensive examination reveals that this perspective is marked by oversights.

Proponents argue that early unions cultivate stability, anchoring individuals in a shared commitment. The purported benefits include heightened financial security, emotional resilience, and the establishment of a stable family nucleus. From a broader perspective, these stable family units are posited as the bedrock of a thriving society, contributing to social harmony.

Nevertheless, this perspective neglects the dynamic nature of personal development, which often extends beyond the age of 30. Encouraging marriage before individuals have fully explored their personal and professional potential may inadvertently stifle growth. Moreover, the emphasis on early marriage may contribute to a higher incidence of divorce, which has cascading consequences on both the individual and societal levels.

In conclusion, while the merits of early marriage are championed, a more nuanced understanding acknowledges the need for individuals to pursue personal growth and fulfillment before committing to such significant life choices.

• Contentious:

Meaning: Causing or likely to cause an argument; controversial. Example: The issue of climate change is highly contentious, sparking debates worldwide.

Meaning: A person or thing vital to an enterprise or organization. Example: The lead scientist was the linchpin of the research project.

Meaning: Strengthens or reinforces. Example: Regular exercise fortifies the body’s immune system.

• Comprehensive:

Meaning: Covering or including everything; thorough. Example: The report provides a comprehensive analysis of the current economic situation.

Meaning: An unintentional failure to notice or do something. Example: He had simply missed Parsons out by an oversight.

• Resilience:

Meaning: The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. Example: The community demonstrated great resilience in rebuilding after the natural disaster.

Meaning: The central and most important part of an object, movement, or group. Example: The nucleus of the company’s success is its innovative approach to product development.

Meaning: The fundamental principles on which something is based. Example: Trust is the bedrock of any healthy relationship.

Meaning: Growing or developing well; prospering. Example: The small business is thriving, thanks to its loyal customer base.

Meaning: Occurring in a sequence or in succession. Example: The cascading effect of the economic downturn impacted various industries.

Band 9 Sample Answer

The assertion that individuals should embrace matrimony before reaching the age of 30 as a panacea for personal and societal prosperity warrants scrutiny. While proponents extol the virtues of early marriage in fostering stability and societal cohesion, a nuanced analysis reveals multifaceted implications that transcend simplistic narratives.

Advocates contend that early marriage acts as a cornerstone for stability, positing that it begets financial security, emotional resilience, and a solid familial foundation. This, they argue, contributes to the overarching well-being of society by fostering a network of stable families. However, a myopic focus on early matrimony disregards the intricate tapestry of personal development, which often continues well into one’s thirties.

Encouraging individuals to marry before they have fully explored their personal and professional potential risks stifling individual growth. Furthermore, an undue emphasis on early marriage may paradoxically contribute to higher divorce rates, undermining the very stability it seeks to promote. Society, in turn, grapples with the repercussions of fractured families and strained social bonds.

In conclusion, while the idea of early marriage has its proponents, a judicious examination underscores the necessity of allowing individuals the time and freedom to chart their personal trajectories before committing to a lifelong partnership.

Meaning: A solution or remedy for all difficulties or diseases. Example: Some view technology as a panacea for educational challenges, while others see it as a potential problem.

Meaning: Justifies or necessitates a particular course of action. Example: The evidence presented in the trial warrants a reconsideration of the initial verdict.

• Multifaceted:

Meaning: Having many different aspects or facets. Example: The issue of climate change is multifaceted, involving scientific, economic, and political dimensions.

Meaning: To go beyond the limits or scope of something. Example: His art seeks to transcend cultural boundaries, appealing to a global audience.

Meaning: Lacking foresight or a narrow view of something. Example: Taking a myopic approach to urban planning may lead to short-term gains but long-term problems.

Meaning: A complex combination or sequence of elements. Example: The city’s rich history is a tapestry woven from diverse cultural influences.

• Paradoxically:

Meaning: In a way that appears contradictory or counter to expectations. Example: Paradoxically, the more we try to control every aspect of our lives, the less satisfied we may become.

Meaning: Showing good judgment, discernment, or discretion. Example: A judicious use of resources is crucial for the sustainability of any project.

• Trajectories:

Meaning: The path or course followed by an object or person in motion. Example: The trajectories of their careers diverged as they pursued different opportunities.

Effective Connectors That’ll Improve Your Writing Task 2 Score Significantly

Certainly! Connectors play a crucial role in linking ideas and creating a smooth flow of information within a text. Here is a list of common connectors that can be used in the provided answers for ‘People Should Be Encouraged to Get Married Before They Are 30’:

• Additionally
• Furthermore
• Nevertheless
• On the other hand
• Despite this
• In comparison
• In the same vein
• Correspondingly
• Consequently
• In conclusion
• To conclude

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Topic: Relationships , Children , Social Issues , Life , Love , Experience , Marriage , Caring

Published: 02/08/2020

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“Marriage is the union of two souls all set to tread the journey of life, hand in hand”. This is what truly makes marriage a wonderful experience. The vows, the dance, the music, the various traditions, all lead to the sanctity of a life, where one has someone to call one’s own. It not only brings happiness but also instills a sense of responsibility. So, marriage is the means by which two souls tie the knot of being together, and draw their dreams, which culminated one common goal. And, this goal is happiness, love, respect, care, and kindness for each other. To that end, I want to get married in order to experience the joys of love, respect, and mutual caring from another First of all, I want to get married because I want to have love in my life. Love is the magical word which automatically finds the solution to all the problems, and it helps one navigate smoothly through the ups and downs of life. In order to establish a happily married life, we need to become an owner, or “carrier” of a true love, grateful for freedom of manifestation of feelings, and able to be self-controlled. So, the prime question that arises is - What does true love mean? It is to be borne in mind that it is not a physical passion or lust, which demands immediate satisfaction. But, true love can be defined as an invisible force uniting two or more people in a harmonious integrity of thoughts, minds, body, and souls. It is shown in thoughts, words and affairs of the person directed at the benefits of others, even at the price of “I”. Therefore, true love, however, cannot be understood from words, books, or educational institutions. Believe it or not, it can be understood only on a basis of life experience. Parents taught us how to love through their unconditional love of their children, which they breathed life into. So, finding the experience from the hearts of children, we form the ability to perceive and give true love; we can share that with others, particularly those we marry. Because of this need for true love, not fleeting physical encounters, that I want to get married. Next, I want to get married because of the value of respect that I want to be given from others. Believe it or not, our best qualities are shown when we share respect between people. Besides, marriage is the means which gives reason, strength, and meaning to one’s life. Everyone wants to be respected; to have someone in your corner who works to make you a better person by appreciating what you do. A happily married couple supports each other in whatever they do, meaning that they feel proud of their significant other when they do something that helps them along their way to personal fulfillment, such as doing well in their career or accomplishing something creatively. This kind of respect is what I want to have (and give to my spouse) when I get married. Third, I want to get married because of the value of caring for someone in life. More than love, more than respect, everyone wants to just have someone who knows they exist and is concerned for their well being. When we are sick or in dire straits, we call on our loved ones to come to our aid when we need them the most. The bond of marriage creates that connection in people, as they are there for you whenever you need. I also want to show my caring for them in similar ways, as well – the ability to share that caring is another reason I wish to marry someone. In conclusion, I want to get married because of the values of love, respect and caring that love provides. This gives enough reason to believe that everyone wants to come back to that special someone after their hectic working schedule when one gets into the bond of marriage. So, beyond the shadow of any doubts, I am have firm belief that marriage is the means to get that special someone in one’s life. And truly speaking, this is the reason why I want to get married to make my life happy, peaceful, and purposeful.

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It is argued that getting married before finishing school PTE Essay

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It is argued that getting married before finishing school or getting a job is not a good choice. To what extent do you agree or disagree?

Many people believe that getting married during schooling or before getting a job is an imprudent approach. This essay is in complete solidarity with the statement as it would lead to immaturity in relations and financial troubles.

To commence with, tying the nuptial knot during school days is not a good option. Generally speaking, in schooling age, people are in the formative years and immature. So, they cannot make informed decisions that could lead to conflicts between the life partners. Furthermore, many responsibilities get attached to the frame of operations of individuals in a relationship. which would be hard to pursue with immaturity and overload of work. For instance, in India, in earlier times, marriages used to happen at the age of around 7-8. This practice had many harmful effects, and higher authorities framed many laws to eradicate it.

Moving further, marriage before getting a job is also troublesome because if a person is not ready financially, taking responsibility for the family is a daunting task. As a result, there would be conflicts in the relationship resulting in the separation. Moreover, engagement in a job or business teaches individuals financial management, a must-have skill to lead your personal and professional life towards the right trajectory . For example, a recent survey revealed that getting married after having job results in happier lives, and it empowers people to handle financial conflicts adroitly .

To summarize, it is advisable to open a new chapter of marriage in life once you complete the foundation steps that are completing schooling and getting a job.

Some people argue that getting married before completing school or obtaining a job is not prudent . This essay is in full solidarity with the above statement because individuals stay focused and can handle conflicts adroitly.

A section of society opines that people should get married after completing their schooling or getting a job because it is a wise approach to staying focused, and it plays a crucial role in leading their lives toward an impressive growth trajectory . It is intuitively true that married people have more responsibilities to handle, and they can only partially devote their time and efforts to achieve their targets of study or finding a plum job. For instance, a recent survey by The Times revealed that it is a daunting task for married individuals to focus on research or job interview preparation.

Moreover, people who complete their studies and do a job are more mature than others who don’t. There is no denying this conviction that maturity comes with experience, and working individuals are better positioned to handle conflicts and make wise decisions in life. In addition, their heaps of experience and knowledge as a worker help them significantly to balance their personal and official life. Japan is a prime example of youngsters being encouraged to find a job and marry for a happy living.

To conclude, it is a sensible approach to complete schooling or find a job before marriage because it allows people to stay focused and make them mature to handle turbulent situations.

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Love is in the air, and wedding season is upon us.

Like many elder millennials, I grew up watching sitcoms in the 1980s and ‘90s. Whenever those series needed a ratings boost, they would feature a wedding. Those special episodes taught me that weddings usually involve young lovebirds: think Elvin and Sondra from “The Cosby Show,” Cory and Topanga from “Boy Meets World,” or David and Darlene from “Roseanne.”

But those were different times. People are getting married later in life than they used to: In the United States, the median age of newlyweds has grown to 28 for women and 30 for men.

This trend means that many Americans now enter marriage after being self-reliant for several years, including managing their own money. Will they be eager to change that once they get married? Don’t count on it. A 2017 Bank of America survey suggests that millennial married couples are around 15 percentage points more likely than their predecessors to keep their finances separate.

This is not necessarily a good development. As a behavioral scientist who studies money and relationships , I find that joint accounts can bring partners closer .

There are some risks, however. Joint accounts create transparency, and intuitively, transparency feels like a good thing in relationships. But I argue that some privacy is important even for highly committed couples – and money is no exception .

The newlywed game

Behavioral scientists Jenny Olson , Deb Small , Eli Finkel and I recently conducted an experiment with engaged and newlywed couples . Each of the pairs had entirely separate accounts, but they were undecided about how they wanted to manage their money moving forward.

We randomly assigned each of the 230 couples to one of three groups. One group kept their money in separate accounts; one merged their cash into a joint account and stopped using separate accounts; and one managed their money however they liked.

We followed couples for two years, periodically asking them to complete surveys assessing their relationship dynamics and satisfaction. Our relationship quality measure included items such as “I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as my partner does” and “Within the last three months, I shouted or yelled at my partner.”

Among the couples who could do whatever they wanted, most kept things separate. They and the couples assigned to keep separate accounts experienced a steady decline in relationship quality over time.

This is a fairly typical pattern. For instance, in a large study that tracked U.S. couples’ marital happiness for 17 years , sociologist Jody Van Laningham and colleagues found that “marital happiness either declines continuously or flattens after a long period of decline.”

Declines during the first two years of marriage are particularly important. Social scientist Ted Huston and colleagues call those first two years the “connubial crucible .” They find that relationship dynamics that develop during that crucial period can foreshadow relationship quality for many years to come.

Couples in our study who were prompted to take the plunge into a joint account, however, maintained their initial level of relationship satisfaction over the course of the two-year experiment.

Tit-for-tat

Our survey results suggest that, by turning “my money” and “your money” into “our money,” a joint account can help to reduce scorekeeping within a relationship. For example, we found that couples with joint accounts were more likely to agree with statements such as “When one person does something for the other, the other should not owe the giver anything.”

Relationships usually don’t start with a scorekeeping orientation. In the 1980s and ‘90s, psychologist Margaret Clark and colleagues conducted experiments where partners had the option of keeping track of each other’s contributions to a shared task. They observed that intimate relationships often begin with a “communal” orientation, where partners help one another without keeping careful track of who’s doing what.

Eventually, however, they take on more of an “exchange” orientation – where inputs are tracked and timely reciprocity is expected. Couples that manage to stave off a tit-for-tat mindset tend to be happier .

Too much of a good thing?

The data from our experiment with young couples clearly suggests that using only a joint account is better than using only separate accounts. However, I argue in my new book, “ Tightwads and Spendthrifts ,” that just a joint account is probably not optimal.

When partners use only a joint account, they get an up-close-and-personal view of how the other person is spending money. This kind of transparency is normally viewed as a good thing.

Some commentators argue that a healthy marriage should have no secrets whatsoever. For example, Willard Harley, Jr., a clinical psychologist who primarily writes for Christian audiences, argues that you should “reveal to your spouse as much information about yourself as you know : your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities, and plans for the future.”

In addition, if your goal is to minimize optional spending, research suggests that the transparency that comes with a joint account can be helpful. We spend less when someone is looking over our shoulder.

Still, there are reasons to believe that complete transparency can be harmful for couples .

Many people have become convinced that if they could just stop buying lattes and avocado toast, they could invest that money and become rich. Unfortunately, the underlying math is highly dubious, as journalist Helaine Olen points out in her book “Pound Foolish .” Still, many people view small indulgences as their primary obstacle to wealth. Complete transparency around these financially inconsequential “treats” can lead to unnecessary arguments .

Also, spouses may have different passions that their partner does not fully understand. Expenses that seem perfectly reasonable to another hobbyist may seem outrageous to someone without the proper context – another source of avoidable disagreements .

'Translucent,’ not transparent

I propose that many couples may benefit from a combination of joint and separate accounts.

A joint account is essential for ensuring that both partners have immediate and equal access to “our money.” Ideally, all income would be direct-deposited into the joint account, which would help to blur the gap between partners’ earnings. Conspicuous income differences can jeopardize relationship quality .

Separate accounts attached to the joint account can allow some privacy for individual purchases and help partners maintain a sense of autonomy and individuality. Each person gets to spend some of “our money” without their partner looking over their shoulder. Spouses would have a high-level understanding of how much their partner is spending per week or per month, but avoid the occasionally irritating details.

This kind of partial financial transparency – what I call “financial translucency ” – could help couples strike the right balance between financial and psychological well-being.

Of course, this approach requires a lot of trust. If the relationship is already on thin ice, complete financial transparency may be necessary. However, if the relationship is generally in the “good, but could be even better” category, I would argue that financial translucency is worth considering.

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200 Beautiful Wedding Wishes and Messages to Write in Their Card

For family, friends or colleagues — honor their day with these congratulatory words.

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Wedding wishes based on bible verses, wedding wishes for a colleague, meaningful wedding wishes, wishes for a new family member, wedding wishes for a son or daughter.

That’s right, figuring out what to write inside a wedding card is an important part of gift-giving that should be taken seriously. After all, marriage is a major step in a person’s life and a commitment intended to last a lifetime — so crafting a special message for the loving pair will go a long way.

Stumped on what to write? Well, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve rounded up some of the best wedding messages and wishes to write inside a card . Whether you’re attending the wedding of your child, family member, close friend or co-worker, we have just the right words to help you wish them well. Keep in mind that tailoring your message to suit the relationship is key. For example, what you write for your favorite cousin may not resonate with a professional acquaintance or colleague. And remember, what you write in a bridal shower card should be different than what you pen in a wdding card! So, we’ve put the messages into simple categories to help you strike the right tone and find the one that will work the best for you.

From light-hearted and funny to formal and sentimental this round-up of wedding messages and wishes are sure to brighten the couple’s big day. Plus, if you’re unable to send a card or attend the wedding, you can always share them as Instagram captions to commemorate the couple’s official union.

So, now that you’ve nailed down what you plan to write, you can focus on other important details like finding the perfect dress to wear and purchasing a unique wedding present from their gift registry . Regardless of what you wear, buy, or write inside the wedding card, all that matters is that you send the newlyweds good vibes as they embark on this blissful new journey.

Formal Wedding Wishes

• Wishing you a lifetime of wedded bliss.
• May your special union bring unbelievable joy to your life.
• May the years ahead be filled with lasting love and happiness.
• May today be the beginning of a new tomorrow that you will cherish forever.
• Wishing you nothing but a lifetime of love.
• May this day be the start of forever for you two.
• May your love burn brighter every day as you grow in love.
• Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness.
• Always remember this special day and why you’re saying, “I do.”
• Wishing you joy, love and happiness on your wedding day and as you begin your new life together.
• Together, may you experience joy beyond your imaginations.
• May this day mark the beginning of a lifetime together.
• Wishing you both a happy and prosperous future.
• As you grow older together, may your love for one another grow stronger.
• Congratulations on your marriage and best wishes for a happy and fulfilling future.
• Congratulations on your marriage. May it be fulfilling and everlasting.
• Wishing you a beautiful wedding day and an enduring love.
• With every hug and kiss, may your bond grow stronger.
• Thanks for allowing me to be a part of your special day and witness your undying love.
• Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness together.
• Cheers to the happy couple. Congratulations!
• May your love continue to thrive to infinity and beyond.
• Wishing you nothing but endless love.
• It’s a joy to watch your love blossom. Here’s to you!
• There’s nothing like the celebration of true love!
• Today is the beginning of forever. Happy wedding day!
• May today be the start of a love that will never end.
• Blessings on your nuptials.
• Here’s to a joyous life together as you embark upon this love-filled journey.
• May the two of you continue to love unconditionally. Congratulations!
• Wishing you love, joy and happiness today and always!
• Keep love in your heart and every day will feel like today. Happy wedding day!
• Today is just the beginning of a lifetime of fun, love-filled adventures. Cheers!
• So honored to witness your special day. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of it.
• Your love is so bright that it radiates the room. Congratulations!
• May your years ahead be filled with nothing but hugs and kisses.

• Congratulations! You’re finally getting hitched!
• Thanks for inviting me to the best party ever! Oops, I meant your wedding. Congratulations!
• Remember, in order to have a successful marriage, you must fall in love many times and always with the same person.
• Enjoy your special day because tomorrow the real hard work starts!
• Your free booze was greatly appreciated. Wishing you a lifetime of wedded bliss!
• Here’s the secret to a successful marriage…oh wait, no one has figured that out yet. Good luck!
• Congratulations on signing away your freedom and privacy!
• Never forget that this might be the happiest day of your life. It’s all downhill from here! Best wishes.
• Best of luck to your new spouse. They don’t know what they’re getting into. Thankfully, they love you unconditionally!
• Now you’ll both have someone to laugh at your corny jokes!
• It’s good that you two found each other. You’re practically the same person in different bodies!
• Eat, drink and be married!
• Congratulations! Here’s a piece of advice: don’t build furniture together if you want it to last!
• You two have just started your lives together, but you’re already starting to look alike!
• Marriage is a bond between a person who never remembers anniversaries and another who never forgets them.
• Don't mess this up! But in case you do, just know that you can keep my gift... Congrats!
• Congratulations on your wedding, may you always be able to put up with each other!
• It's a true blessing to know that, for the rest of your life, there's only one special person you want to annoy. Congratulations!
• Marriage: Where “Yes Dear” are the magic words.
• Getting married is like being in drama school. You get to practice everything from comedy to melodrama to tragedy. Congratulations.
• Congratulations and best of luck on continuing to ignore the little annoying things.
• And now you two have officially become one: one bed, one remote, one bathroom!
• Congratulations! Thanks for officially taking [insert name] off my hands.
• I just have one thing to say: finally!
• “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” –Ephesians 4:32
• “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." –1 Corinthians 13:13
• “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” –1 Corinthians 13:4-5
• “Let all that you do be done in love.” –1 Corinthians 16:14
• “I have found the one whom my soul loves.” –Song of Solomon 3:4
• “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” –Romans 12:10
• “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” –Mark 10:9
• “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” –Proverbs 3:3
• "Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins." –1 Peter 4:8
• "Serve one another through love." –Galatians 5:13
• "I have found the one whom my soul loves." –Song of Solomon 3:4
• "No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is made complete in us." –1 John 4:12
• "So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate." —Matthew 19:6
• "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." —Ephesians 4:2-3
• "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." —1 Thessalonians 5:11
• “Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14
• "Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other." —Psalm 85:10
• "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." —1 Peter 4:8
• "Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If one were to give all the wealth of one’s house for love, it would be utterly scorned." —Song of Solomon 8:7
• "Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for you I entrust my life." —Psalm 143:8
• "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." —Proverbs 18:22
• “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." —Jeremiah 3:13
• "But Ruth replied, 'Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.’” —Ruth 1 16-17
• "Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law." —Romans 13:8

• Congratulations on finding your soulmate!
• Wishing you an everlasting union.
• May your love burn brightly forever.
• Best wishes!
• Here's to many happy years together!
• Congratulations on your nuptials.
• All the best to you today and always.
• Seeing you two together brings me so much joy. Best wishes!
• Tons of love for you today and always.
• Wishing you a long and healthy marriage.
• It is a privilege to witness such pure love. Congratulations!
• Following your heart always leads to a lifetime of love.
• Here's to an exciting and loving future together.
• I’m so glad to share this special day with you two!
• Congratulations on your marriage. I wish you both the best.
• Best wishes for today and beyond.
• We are honored to celebrate your love and special day.
• A lifetime of love begins today. Enjoy every minute!
• I'm so honored to share this special day with you.
• Well wishes!
• I wish you both a long and happy marriage!
• Well wishes to you and your partner!
• If you’re as good of a partner as you are a co-worker, I know that your spouse is one lucky person!
• I’m so happy for you. Congratulations!
• Blessings on your union.
• Tons of love for you today.
• It’s such a joy to see you so happy. Continued blessings!
• Your future as a bride/groom is exceptionally bright. Congratulations on finding your special someone.
• Today is just the beginning of endless fun, laughter and of course, love!
• Here’s to a lifetime of happiness.
• It’s a blessing to find your soul mate. I’m so glad you found yours!
• Married life is going to look so good on you!

• As the days go by, hold onto the burning love that ignited your journey.
• Don't let anything stand in the way of your love.
• As you take this big step, know that you have my love and support today and always.
• Be sure to always lean on your unconditional love even when things aren't easy.
• As a couple, you are living proof that following your heart will always lead to true love.
• Never forget what brought you two together. Stay focused on your love and you’ll never go wrong.
• Keep your love close to your heart, it can conquer anything.
• Respect your union and each other and the rest will always fall into place.
• All that matters is your love for one another. Congratulations on making the commitment.
• The connection you share is unbreakable. Cherish and honor your love.
• Don't lose sight of your love, it can overcome anything.
• Honor your spouse and you will be prepared for anything that comes your way.
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• From the moment you were born, I knew that you would grow up to become an exceptional individual. Now that you’re getting married, never lose sight of your values and principles that have taken you this far in life.
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In an era where traditional definitions of marriage and family are increasingly being challenged and redefined, a new trend is emerging: women are marrying each other not out of romantic love, but for practical and legal reasons, according to a recent article in the New York Times .

These unions, often formed between besties, offer a host of benefits—from legal protections and insurance benefits to shared responsibilities and mutual support at work functions. I was deeply curious about this phenomenon, as it is part of a deeper discussion happening between women around the topic, “Do we really need men?”

Women are not only evaluating the role and importance men pay in their lives, but they’ve started an all-out boycott in South Korea know as the 4B movement , which is essentially a rejection of men. Women who embrace the 4B movement are refusing heterosexual marriage, childbirth, dating, and heterosexual sexual relationships. So, if women are opting out of trad-wife life, what are they embracing? Marrying their best friends. Let’s explore the potential impact of a platonic marriage on women’s careers and finances, and compare it with “traditional” marriage stats.

The Trend of Non-Romantic Same-Sex Marriages

While there is limited formal data on the prevalence of non-romantic same-sex marriages, anecdotal evidence suggests that this trend is growing. These arrangements are particularly appealing to women seeking the benefits of marriage without the traditional expectations of romantic involvement. Legal marriage provides a framework for numerous advantages, which can be particularly important in navigating the complexities of modern life.

Legal and Social Benefits

One of the primary motivations for these marriages is the legal protections they offer. Married couples, regardless of gender or romantic involvement, gain access to numerous legal rights and benefits which include:

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• Insurance Benefits : Spousal coverage for health insurance is a significant incentive. Given the high cost of individual health plans, being able to cover a friend as a spouse can lead to substantial savings and better health care options.
• Legal Protections and Advocacy : In many jurisdictions, spouses are granted the right to make medical decisions for each other and have automatic inheritance rights. This can be crucial in emergencies or when dealing with complex legal situations.
• Social Acceptance and Support : Attending work and family gatherings as a couple can provide social cover and support. This can be particularly beneficial in conservative environments where being single or unmarried might be viewed negatively.

Financial Upsides

The financial benefits of these non-romantic marriages are significant. Sharing a home and pooling resources can lead to considerable savings. Here’s how:

• Shared Living Expenses : By sharing rent or mortgage payments, utilities, and other household expenses, both parties can significantly reduce their cost of living. This financial stability can allow for greater savings and investment in personal or professional growth.
• Tax Benefits : Married couples often benefit from tax breaks and incentives. These can include filing jointly for potentially lower tax rates and exemptions that single individuals do not receive.
• Combined Resources for Investments : Couples can combine their financial resources to invest in property, start businesses, or save for retirement, creating a stronger financial foundation for both individuals.

Impact on Careers

Marrying a close friend can also have positive implications for one's career:

• Professional Support : Having a spouse who understands and supports your career ambitions can be a tremendous advantage. This support can come in the form of networking, attending company events together, and providing emotional backing during challenging times.
• Work-Life Balance : Sharing household responsibilities can lead to a better work-life balance. This balance can improve job performance and reduce stress, leading to greater career satisfaction and success.
• Enhanced Mobility : With the stability and support of a trusted partner, individuals might feel more confident in pursuing job opportunities that require relocation or extensive travel.

Comparing with Traditional Marriages

Traditional marriages, defined by romantic involvement, have long been the norm. However, they come with their own set of challenges. Statistics show that in 2023, approximately 43% of marriages of first time marriages in the United States end in divorce. This statistic highlights the potential instability and emotional toll of romantic marriages.

In contrast, non-romantic marriages based on mutual respect and shared goals might offer a more stable foundation. While there is no extensive data on the success rates of non-romantic same-sex marriages, the practical nature of these unions might reduce the emotional conflicts that often lead to divorce.

The Changing Landscape of Marriage

The trend of women marrying each other for practical benefits reflects broader changes in societal norms and values. As traditional definitions of marriage evolve, these platonic unions highlight the importance of legal and financial stability, mutual support, and practical partnership.

While this trend might seem unconventional, it aligns with a growing recognition that marriage is not solely about romantic love. It can also be a strategic partnership that enhances both parties' lives in meaningful ways.

By leveraging the legal and financial benefits of marriage, women can create stable, supportive environments that enhance their personal and professional lives. This trend not only challenges traditional notions of marriage but also opens up new possibilities for how we define family and partnership in a world where women long to feel more in control of their bodies and lives.

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Nowadays people are disturbed by a variety of questions and dilemmas which have to be solved and evaluated, and one of the most burning ones is the idea of marriage. Is it really important to get married and legitimate relations all the time? Why are so many people eager to get married?

And why do some people still try to avoid getting married and continue living alone or with lovers but without marriage? It is always interesting to find answers to such questions, however, it is not always possible to be sure about the correctness of the answer. This is why to get a clear idea of why people get or do not get married, it is possible to rely on some literary works and evaluate personal attitude to marriages and life in family.

Works by Hemingway, Corso, and Hardy may be used as reliable sources for the analysis of marriages and their role in human life. It is not easy to comprehend why people get married: all old ideas and attitudes have already fallen away, and people are free to choose a person to marry, the time to get married, and the reasons to start married life.

There are many wrong and right reasons why people should start thinking about marriage. The variety of reasons may be connected to the wrong interpretation of marriage essence. This is why, to comprehend clearly why people get married, it is necessary to analyze its essence. In fact, any marriage is a union between two people who are eager to share their lives and souls to each other and become as closer as possible.

Among this variety of reasons why people want to get married, it is necessary to underline such ideas like the desire to have a lifelong partner, share this life with a person you are in love, have babies, support each other all the time, and enjoy this life together. Of course, nowadays all these reasons are not as powerful as they used to be, and many people prefer just to live together and not to hurry up to say “I DO” before family and church representatives.

In comparison to the past, modern conditions seem to be softer and more convenient for people. People are free to choose and think as long as they want. Some time ago, relations between women and men were very strict and reserved. It is enough to remember the poem by Thomas Hardy The Ruined Maid , where a woman suffers from inability to comprehend how it is possible to have sex and relations with men without being married and being in love.

Old rules and attitudes to marriage usually attract people’s attention. If a woman gets a chance to wear expensive clothes or jewelry like “gay bracelets and bright feathers three” (Hardy 445) without having a husband, she undergoes considerable critics and reproaches from the society she lives in. The lifestyle chosen by the character is similar to the one we live today, however, during those times, it was rejected and regarded as wrong. Women should have legal husbands to be able for reproduction and bringing up children.

In fact, the question of children in marriages is raised by many authors, and Ernest Hemingway was one of them. In his Hills Like White Elephants , he introduced a story of one couple that had loving affairs but was not eager to get married. They found it was ok to have relations and not to be bound. But still, their mistakes became evident; though the author did not name the problem, it was evident that a woman was pregnant and had to agree to abortion because her man did not want anyone except her.

She wanted to have this baby and regarded it as a white elephant (Hemingway 406) due to its importance and cost. This is one of the most burning problems any couple may face – birth of bastards. Unborn children are not guilty but already deprived of a chance to live in this world. Fathers do not accept this problem as well as mothers do, this is why when couples start living together without thinking of getting married, they have to admit the fact that one day their couple may become a trio.

Men have also a different attitude to marriage itself like it was described in Corso’s poem Marriage. He asks many questions like “Should I get married? Should I be good?/ Astound the girl next door with my velvet suit and Faustus hood?” (Corso 440) and cannot find appropriate answers. Even if a man fells in love with a woman, he cannot be absolutely sure about his readiness to create a family, and women have to be ready for this uncertainty.

Marriage is a poetic issue that is described by many poets and writers. Some writers accept this notion as something pure and amazing without which it is hard to imagine this life.

And some writers are eager to discover bad sides of marriage and life in family. Of course, each person has his/her own attitude to this issue and is able to decide whether it is time to get married or not. Still when people start thinking about the importance of marriage, it is necessary to admit that relations between men and women always lead to something, and if this “something” is a baby, such aspects like marriage and legalization of relations have to be taken into account.

Works Cited

Corso, Gregory. “Marriage.” In Missy James and Alan P. Merickel Reading Literature and Writing Argument . Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall Professional Technical, 2004.

Hardy, Thomas. “The Ruined Maid.” In Missy James and Alan P. Merickel Reading Literature and Writing Argument . Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall Professional Technical, 2004.

Hemingway, Ernest. “Hills Like White Elephants.” In Missy James and Alan P. Merickel Reading Literature and Writing Argument . Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall Professional Technical, 2004.

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What will marriage look like in the future?

Michel Martin

Claire Murashima

The 'Morning Edition' series 'The Sumer of Love' begins with a look at marriage

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Romantic norms appear more fluid now than ever before.

Over the past few decades, cohabitation rates have nearly doubled, more children are being born outside of marriage and in recent months — there’s been buzz around polyamory and open relationships. With younger generations less set on following tradition, marriage could look very different in the future.

This summer, NPR’s Morning Edition is looking into marriage as part of our “Summer of Love” series.

We asked NPR listeners for their thoughts on marriage and they told us how they structure their relationships and other ways they’ve found love.

Jennifer Koca, 37, polyamorous woman with a primary partner of 7 years in Richmond, Va.: “I definitely dreamt about getting married a lot when I was a kid, but as I got older, I realized marriage is basically just a piece of paper.”

Doyle Tate, 31, single dad in Jacksonville, Fla.: “I would love to be married one day. I decided that I wasn't going to wait for a man who may never come. So I started the process of surrogacy when I was around 30. Aphrodite Rose is now four-and-a-half months, so it's been wonderful.”

Aravind Boddupalli, 28, married man in Baltimore, Md.: “My love life with my partner Mae looks like a true partnership. We are an interracial marriage, but I don't think it's ever posed an issue for us in our respective communities.”

So what do changing romantic norms mean for the future of marriage?

Michel Martin spoke to futurist Jake Dunagan about what marriage might look like in the future. Dunagan studies governance at the Institute for the Future, a think tank committed to research and education. As part of that work, he thinks about topics like the future of marriage.

This interview has been lightly edited for length and clarity.

Interview highlights

Jake Dunagan: [Marriage] has been a norm in human society in a diverse way. We've invented and reinvented marriage. We ask marriage to do a lot in our society, from sexual reproduction to romantic love to personal fulfillment, political alliances. Do we want to keep those bundled in marriage or do we want to split those up? You know, do we want a function for socially sanctioned romantic love? Do we want something about economic mobility and robustness? Do we want something about parenting and bringing up children together? So if you think about the futures of marriage, you know, do we have those official formal sanctions and ceremonies for each one of those? Maybe or maybe not. But we have things that might stretch the meaning of what marriage is.

Michel Martin: We are hearing, though, more in the media about polyamorous relationships. That's not necessarily polygamy. And often we're hearing from women who are interested in these kinds of relationships. There is no society currently in which polygamy is recognized, where women have equal social standing. So is there a form of this that could take place in which women might be the initiators of these kinds of relationships in which they would have equal social and legal standing?

Dunagan: Polygamy has basically been a patriarchal institution. The younger generations are definitely more diverse, they're more tolerant of gender continuum, [they’re] ideologically value-based, they're more open to that.

Marriage asks a lot of us: It asks us to be monogamous for a long time, it asks us to be good roommates and good partners, it asks us to be good co-parents together. And I think certainly, given some of the indicators, the younger generations may be more open to exploration of what that institution looks and feels like.

Martin: What do you think are the commonalities of what people are looking for in marriage that will endure into the future?

Dunagan: I mean, I think romantic love. We want to feel connected to someone, feeling a sense of belonging and togetherness. And I think whether we idealize romantic love or sexual attraction, I mean, those are core parts of marriage. We will in some sense always have that. There's a sense that I'm a better person or I'm a more complete person with someone else, or maybe more than one if we want to go that direction. But that sense of fulfillment is very strong. And so marriage is often a pathway for that. And so I think that will continue.

You know, do we need to do reproduction through the institution of marriage? I'm less inclined to say that has to be there. But I think the sense of being connected to someone for a long time, finding someone or something that really makes you feel better about yourself and more whole. I think there's something there that we all want and that will endure. And I think marriage can be a part of that story.

This story was edited for broadcast by Jan Johnson and edited for digital by Obed Manuel.

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